Free Resource Library

Designed to bring you clarity and peace.

Safety Tools

Mini Body Camera - Recommended forr every direct exchange.

Soberlink sobriety monitoring device. Click here to receive a $100 Enrollment Bonus when you purchase a Soberlink sobriety monitoring device. Soberlink is the most trusted way to get verified proof if your co-parent is drinking. I used this as a way to protect my young son after my divorce and it gave me peace of mind that this was one less thing I had to worry about when my son was with his father.

Podcasts

Genesis The Podcast - This podcast is a new way to connect with Genesis Women’s Shelter and Support and expand your thinking about domestic violence and related issues that affect women. Genesis the Podcast is also a safe place to gather resources and information if you are in an abusive relationship and need safety, shelter or support.

Perfect Prey Podcast by Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola

Perfect Prey by Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola - Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, & Survivor. She has been an advocate since the age of 19, passionate about protecting children from abuse. Yet, even as a therapist, she didn't see the signs in her own relationship. How do we, as protective parents, support our children harmed by the coercive controller (aka Narcissistic Abuser)? Dr. Cocchiola's expertise provides the framework for supporting protective parents as they navigate parenting children harmed by the coercive controller. Protective parents can show their children a path to freedom.

We Can Do Hard Things - On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon Doyle, author of UNTAMED; her wife Abby Wambach; and her sister Amanda Doyle do the only thing they’ve found that has ever made life easier: Drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard things including sex, gender, parenting, blended families, bodies, anxiety, addiction, justice, boundaries, fun, quitting, overwhelm . . . all of it. We laugh and cry and help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, free-er, less alone.

Crime Analyst - If you are curious about the ‘who dunnit’ and the ‘why dunnit’ and how and why victims become footnotes in their own murders, Crime Analyst is for you. Hosted by world renowned and award-winning Criminal Behavioural Analyst Laura Richards. Laura developed the DASH Risk Assessment model as a tool for victim’s advocates to ensure proper protection is given to domestic violence victim-survivors. Cat was trained directly by Laura Richards as a certified DASH Risk Assessor.

Educational Videos

Surviving Post-Separation Abuse: Supporting Survivors After Escaping Domestic Violence - DomesticShelters.org

Healing from Trauma Video Playlist

Therapy In a Nutshell - YouTube Channel

InBrief: How Resilience is Built - by Center on the Developing Child at Harvard

In The Interest of The Child - Dutch documentary exposing the broken CPS / court system. Similar to the GAL / CPS system here in the US.

Healing Resources

Free Course - Grounding Skills for Anxiety and PTSD by Therapy In a Nutshell

The Mind Map of the Nine Dimensions of Wellness is a gentle yet empowering tool designed for those who are ready to move beyond survival and into holistic healing. This visual guide helps you navigate daily practices that nurture your mind, body, soul, your financial stability, and connections with others. Rooted in resilience, it offers a clear path to rebuilding a life of balance, intention, and well-being. Click here for a blank mind map to fill in your own intentions.

FREE Domestic Violence Crisis Support

National agencies that offer FREE support:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.ncadv.org/ OR 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) OR Text START to 88788

Domestic Shelters at www.domesticshelters.org

Mommy’s Heart Foundation - Mommy's Heart provides free legal and mental health resources to eligible parents, so that no parent ever has to fear losing a child to one’s abuser for reporting violence.

Legal Resource Center on Violence Against Women - Working with attorneys to achieve justice and safety for domestic violence survivors in interstate custody cases.

Family Justice Center Alliance - We develop and support Family Justice Centers that help survivors and their children find the services they need in ONE place.

Co-Parenting Tools

Custody Exchange Co-Parenting Platform - includes a comprehensive set of of tools for co-parenting. This app isn’t widely known but is my person favorite for co-parent communication.

Books & Education for Children & Teens

The Sky is Red

The Sky is Red was created to encourage children to stand up for what they believe and to remain confident enough to trust themselves, even when faced with pressure not to. Self-trust is a superpower!

Teaching children to trust themselves builds their self-confidence and self-esteem, and is the best way to protect them from gaslighting, manipulation, and peer pressure. There are situations that can come up throughout our lives where our inner strength is challenged, and we are pressured to ignore our feelings or what we know to be true. The Sky is Red paints an age appropriate clear picture as to why it is so important and rewarding to trust yourself.

by Tyra Juliette Schwartz

My Boundary Balloons

My Boundary Balloons was created to help children understand emotional boundaries, one of the most important yet often overlooked social-emotional skills.

Through a relatable conversation between two children, My Boundary Balloons introduces young readers to three essential types of boundaries.

by Tyra Juliette Schwartz

by Tyra Juliette Schwartz

The Mystery Seeds

What if your child could feel happy and confident without needing approval from others?

From the author of the bestselling children’s book The Sky is Red comes The Mystery Seeds, a heartfelt story that inspires self-validation and inner happiness.

In this meaningful tale, a young princess relies on daily visits from others who bring her compliments and gifts to feel good about herself. When those visits suddenly stop, she is left feeling lost and unsure how she will find happiness on her own.

I Said No: A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private

I Said No: A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private will continue to help families navigate a difficult subject in simple, kid-friendly language that advises readers to identify their feelings, recognize green and red flags, and to always (always) confide in a trusted adult when encountering the red ones.

by Kimberly King

Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept

'Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept' is a beautifully illustrated children's picture book that sensitively broaches the subject of keeping children safe from inappropriate touch. We teach water and road safety, but how do we teach Body Safety to young children in a way that is neither frightening nor confronting? This book is an invaluable tool for parents, caregivers, teachers and healthcare professionals to broach the subject of safe and unsafe touch in a non-threatening and age-appropriate way. The comprehensive notes to the reader and discussion questions at the back of the book support both the reader and the child when discussing the story. Suitable for children aged 3 to 12 years.

by Jayneen Sanders

by Patrice Karst

The Invisible String

With over 2 million copies sold, this accessible, bestselling picture book phenomenon about the unbreakable connections between loved ones has healed generations of children and adults alike. This new hardcover edition includes the vibrant illustrations from the 2018 paperback edition. A new version featuring many different families, The Invisible String Family Celebration, and a companion workbook, The Invisible String Workbook, are also available.

Every Moment of Every Day

Every Moment of Every Day is a story for children who experience shared custody arrangements, and how protective mothers can support them when discomfort arises during parental transitions.

A child may experience confusing emotions when they are going or returning from the other parent's home. This book is designed to reflect our best responses to our child's feelings, including offering support during moments of dysregulation, providing unconditional love and acceptance with appropriate interventions, and remaining attuned to our child's needs.

Lending our children calm and bodily regulation techniques is vital when they are experiencing trauma.

by Christine Marie Cocchiola

The One Love Foundation - One Love Foundation is a national non-profit with the goal of ending relationship abuse. We empower young people with tools and resources to see the signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships and bring life-saving prevention education to their communities.
Love Is Learned - A Choose-Your-Own Relationship Adventure Graphic Novel by One Love Foundation
The 10 Signs of Healthy & Unhealthy Relationships - by One Love Foundation
How to Respect Boundaries - A Guide: 7 Tips to Setting Boundaries by One Love Foundation
Domestic Violence & Family Court-Related Research

“The Saunders Study” - Research Based Recommendations for Child Custody Evaluation Practices and Policies in Cases of Intimate Partner Violence by Daniel G. Saunders Ph.D..
‘Swim, swim and die at the beach’: family court and perpetrator induced trauma (CPIT) experiences of mothers in Brazil by Dr. Emma Katz.
The Validation of the Checklist of Controlling Behaviors (CCB): Assessing Coercive Control in Abusive Relationships - An instrument for assessing the severity of coercively controlling behaviors in abusive relationships. An excellent tool for those who primarily experience non-physical IPV in preparing for custody evaluations or to use as evidence in family court. (Keywords: checklist of controlling behaviors, coercive control, domestic violence instrument, power and control)
“Keeping Children Safe From Family Violence Act” or “Kayden’s Law”

Click here for the language Senate Bill 3623, “Kayden’s Law”. The primary purpose of the bill is to enhance protections for children in custody and family court cases, particularly in situations involving abuse or domestic violence allegations. "Kayden’s Law" is named after Kayden Mancuso, a 7-year-old girl who was killed by her father during a court-ordered, unsupervised visit despite her mother’s warnings of abuse.
Colorado Family Court Information

https://www.coloradojudicial.gov/self-help-forms
Use the drop-down menus to filter by “Family Cases” as the category and then choose the relevant form from the sub-category drop-down.
https://projectjusticecolorado.com/#citizen-surveys
The above survey was developed by Colorado protective parents in order to gain a citizen-focused understanding of the experience of going through a PRE. Please fill out this survey to help the Colorado family court system gain a better understanding of what it’s like - whether or not you found it helpful, if your evaluator followed protocol, and if you experienced bias, trauma, or abuse at the hands of your evaluator. The survey is anonymous.
Revised House Bill 24-1350 CONCERNING STANDARDS RELATED TO COURT PROCEEDINGS FOR ALLOCATION OF PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES TO KEEP CHILDREN SAFE
This revised bill includes language to support the framework of domestic violence - including coercive control - as a consideration when determining child custody and decision-making. This bill includes the best interest factors that family court decision-makers use as a framework when deciding parenting time and decision-making. Use this framework to create your documentation for court - this is the lens they’re listening through.